Why putting your spouse first is so important
What does it mean to put your spouse first?
I am going to start this post with a very popular and powerful bible scripture, which will also be the foundation and centerpiece for our blog topic.
That scripture will be (Genesis 2:24) That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
So this scripture is referencing a transition once a man becomes married, he leaves his birth family and becomes united with or one with his family, which here would indicate his wife. The same for a wife, in that she would leave her birth family(parents) and become joined to her husband. Spiritually the scripture also indicates that GOD sees husband and wife as one unit(one flesh). Let’s discuss why this is important.
When you get married there are some very important adjustments you must make coming from life as a single person to life, as a married person. One of those is understanding your spouse right after GOD, now becomes your new number one priority. That means they become your first concern and your first loyalty should go to them. First loyalty here means that what your spouse says should take primary importance and concern over what others may think especially if it pertains to your marriage. That includes feedback opinions, advice and thoughts from your parents, inlaws, all other siblings, family members, and friends. Now, this is not to say that you cut off your family and friends, however, you should understand that your spouse can feel violated or even hurt by sharing marital problems, issues and things with others without them knowing or at least consulting them first.
Becoming one flesh
Becoming one flesh is also referencing you and your spouse learning how to come together and bond as one cohesive unit. This means learning how to make major decisions together. Keep in mind that you will not agree on everything, but instead of thinking alike, focus more on thinking together. What compromises can be made, especially with major decisions?. Keep in mind that becoming one is an ongoing process, but its a beautiful thing. Here are a few things to keep in mind and you’re on your way.
- Start thinking and considering your spouse in all major decisions, smaller decisions as long as they don’t affect your spouse or household are fine to make on your own. Make a judgment call on those and honor your spouse.
- Regardless of what anyone thinks or says(Including family members) – Give your spouse first priority!
- You may not always think alike, but think together, get in the habit of setting goals, making plans and operating as a team. (this will help you to be accountable to each other