Facts - Now most times we hear just about physical abuse, which is more common with men, but verbal abuse tends to be morecommon with women. However both are usually at play. Words can tear down spiritually, emotionally and mentally, and you can't take them back, however you can recognize the destructive pattern, change course and turn it around if not too late.

Verbal usually happens during arguments that get very confrontational. Couples get into a lot of back and forth and then instead of addressing the solutions, they start addressing the problems, fault finding and finally name-calling

Solutions: Try to focus on solving problems and not solutions. Even when you argue never use profanity, or words that would intentionally

hurt your spouse. If it's a matter of getting angry, you must work on using self control. Don't say things that you will later regret.